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working together on your ceremony

Our first meeting...

Using the Wedding Ceremony Planning Guide (below) as a discussion template, we meet (preferably in-person) to discuss your beliefs and what you think is important in your relationship, your family, and your desires for your wedding ceremony. Together, we will make the ceremony that represents you. Financial arrangements will also be discussed. Based on this discussion, the Couple will decide if they want to engage Evan as their wedding officiant/minister.

Ceremony first draft...

If you decide to proceed working with me, I will draft your wedding ceremony based on our discussion at our first meeting.

Vows/Intentions...

After the first meeting, the couple usually has homework to do: writing or editing your wedding intentions/vows. This sometimes means starting from scratch, but often also takes the form of discussing or editing sample intentions/vows that I have drafted for you.

Second meeting (optional)...

Usually a second meeting is required to fine-tune the first draft of your ceremony. Depending on the level of discussion needed, this meeting is held either in-person or over Zoom. At this meeting, you agree to the final content of your ceremony.

  • Prior to finalizing the ceremony, Evan will need
    • your final intentions/vows
    • a favorite photograph of you together (.jpg)
    • any other pending content we have discussed.

Marriage license...

If you are having a legally-recognized wedding ceremony, obtain a marriage license at your local county clerk's office. Bring the license to Evan at the rehearsal or ceremony. Evan (and witness, depending on type of license) signs the license after the ceremony and will return it to the county clerk. I will send a copy of the signed license to you.

Your ceremony...

Your ceremony will be lovely. Evan will arrive about 40 minutes prior to the start time. Weddings (these days) usually begin about 10-15 minutes late because of late-arriving guests. You will find it convenient if a member of the wedding party or an on-site coordinator is available to help with logistics and details- so you can relax. Please pay Evan prior to the ceremony. Immediately after the ceremony, Evan (and witness(es)) will sign the marriage license. I will provide you with a commemorative copy of the ceremony.

After the Big Day...

Evan will file your marriage license. You submit a separate form to obtain a certified copy. I welcome your review or comments on Yelp under Religious Organizations.

ceremony planning guide

Entrance

Can include music, flower bearers and flower scattering


Are there important friends or family members who enter before or with the couple?

Altar

The altar can represent the couple's spiritual values (Buddha, Dharma, Nature, God, Creation, etc.)

Welcome

Officiant welcomes everyone and talks about why everyone is gathered. This might be the time for a talk on marriage/commitment and the role of the community in supporting their partnership

Meditation or silence

Perhaps having people reflect on their wishes and feelings for the couple being joined. Or perhaps doing loving-kindness (metta) meditation

Blessings

There are meaningful ways to represent community/family blessings upon the couple


A blessing from the officiant is traditional, such as a short metta meditation, sprinkling with holy water, blessing cord, etc.

Refuges and precepts

These are usually done in a specifically-Buddhist ceremony. Some couples will re-write the refuges and precepts in their own language. 


In a wider sense, this part of the ceremony can be a statement of how the couple intends to live their lives spiritually- by what values

Poetry and song

Offered by one or both people being married, or by friends and family


This is one way to involve loved ones in the ceremony

Exchange of intentions/vows and rings

Alternatives or additions to exchanging rings could be malas (Buddhist prayer beads) or Tibetan blessing scarves


Ask Evan about intentions versus vows


There are many opportunities here to make commitments or undertake the Buddhist precepts or any spiritual values or traditions as a couple


Could include statement of undertaking to use relationship as practice to reveal the underlying spiritual qualities of life together

Kiss and pronouncement of marriage

Other possible elements: chanting, ringing of bells, noisemakers, prayer flags for everyone, etc. 

Exit

Provides a concrete ending to the ceremony – especially important if reception is being held in same location


It is a good idea to have the couple exit before the guests, immediately go to a private location with witnesses to sign the marriage license, and then have some alone-time prior to entering the reception

Contact Us

Feel free to give me a call or send me an email with your questions or comments.

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Better yet, meet with Evan in person or on Zoom or give me a call!

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I Look Forward to Co-Creating Your Perfect Day!

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